He is manipulative, admits he never felt all the illegal things he did was wrong, is sociopathic, admits he is arrogant, admits he's narcissistic.
`Lie strong, defy all who did him "wrong"' - seems to be his motto.
By "wrong" - in Armstrong's vocabulary - is whatever he decides as "wrong."
According to Armstrong, anyone and everyone,who tells the truth about him/who exposes his lies/who reveals his illegal activities/who shows and tells the world who Armstrong really is
needs to be shut up/bullied into shutting up/ must be labeled as "crazy," "bitch" - but not "fat"/sued/maligned & gather other people to help malign these "crazy" "bitches."
How do we know he's not really sorry?
We hear him say "sorry" but this is not backed up with authentic feelings of being sorry - such as remorse or guilt or the feeling that he did something wrong - all of which he says he did not feel and he himself admits the fact that his non-feelings towards all these was "scary" - "scarier" - "scariest."
See how he rationalized away his cheating by looking it up and backing up his belief with a dictionary definition of the word.
Also, despite his non-apologetic "sorry,"
despite him admitting that he is "a bully"
he doesn't back all these up with specifics even when pointedly asked
and settles instead to superficial generalizations
partnered with
contempt
arrogance
and the overall feeling that he is pleased with himself for putting one over everyone.
"This is too late."
Thanks to Oprah's interview with Armstrong, we have a solid example of the lessons we could pick up from him and others like him who lie, cheat, bully and manipulate aka a narcissistic personality disordered psychopath.
1 When someone admits he is a jerk, an "arrogant prick", "I deserve this," "deeply flawed (at 1:29 while smiling)" -- this is not equal to an admission of one's shortcomings - in their eyes they are just describing themselves AS IS, they could even take these as their strengths.
Not because they have recognized their being a jerk or an arrogant prick doesn't mean change is possible. This only means they are verbalizing what you already know and what they are proud of.
Change is only possible when recognition is partnered with authentic remorse and guilt for hurting others.
Run away from these kind of people. But first, believe these descriptions of themselves - they are their own experts and they know what they are capable of. As Tita Oprah says, "When someone tells you who they are the first time, believe them."
2 When there is arrogance, there is always a propensity to lie, exaggerate. Arrogant people are never sorry for any hurts they did. They could only feel pleasure from being able to put one over everyone; for duping and getting away with it. And when there is no authentic apology, there is no authentic remorse. When there is no guilt, the hurts these arrogant people inflict will happen again.
3 Not even the closest family member or persons in a narcissist's life could make these people change.
Not their kids or the trust their kids have on them are enough to make them switch off their evil intent.
See how Armstrong dismisses his lying even in front of his eldest child when he tells his son what to say when confronted by others about him:
"Hey, my father said he was sorry."
And look at how he smiles when he realizes his son "trusts (him)" despite his brazen lies -
and which he admits at 3:00 "makes it (even) sicker."
He smiles at that "sick" fact!!!
none of these he actually means.
"Why now?" Oprah asks Armstrong.
After more than a decade of lies, why `fess up now?
After all those brazen denials, why now?
This is another sign of how INAUTHENTIC his apology is.
You don't step on someone's foot and apologize for it ten years later - unless you have an agenda that will be to your benefit.
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