If the plot of the movie It Takes a Man and a Woman is illustrated
and the journeys of its characters are drawn out,
it would look like this:
it would look like this:
Specifically, the characters' journey is outlined below:
And there might not be a part 4 because this movie showed how much Miggy and Laida didn't change at all - despite all the convincing, the fierceness, the tears, the American slang/twang, the new lives both characters seem to be leading. It's all cosmetics. It's all superficial. It's all special effects.
Miggy and Laida hasn't moved on at all.
Laida is still the same giddy girl in pseudo-love with Miggy.
Pseudo-love because she thinks she's in love with him despite his betrayal, (what, Laida leaves
for work and he smooches another woman? addicted to any skirt-wearing-person much? cant
handle loneliness much? doesnt care about Laida's feelings and her loyalty much?)
his arrogance, his lack of care, his lack of empathy, his selfishness.
The fact she doesnt mind all of these negative traits of him, and that she still stays with him
doesnt mean she loves him, it only means -
- in Zoila's words, Laida is an "Adik!"
Laida also doesnt love herself because if she does, her self-respect, self-esteem and self-worth
wont allow her to stay and will automatically push her away from Miggy's poisonous presence.
Miggy is still - and forever will be - focused on how to self-sabotage his life and everyone and everything within proximity of him.
He also doesnt care about Laida or his current classy girlfriend. He just wants a warm body whom he could depend on to save his ass always and forever so he can stay happy forever after making sure he wont look at himself and how he can change his behavior for the better.
That is why he wants to be a good man see but he knows, no matter how hard he tries, he cant. His pride, arrogance wont let him. And Laida's presence or her pseudo-love cant save him. Only he can do that.
That is why when Miggy proposed to Laida, he said he's applying for work. Because he needs to literally work and make an effort to not be his natural arrogant self.
Their wedding just cemented their obsolescence. They think they have moved on via them literally moving / going into the next step everyone thinks they should be in. But it was just a way for them to trap each other in the same cycle of Miggy's self-sabotage and Laida's messianic role in his life.
That's not a happy ever after, not is it a reality ever after. It's a dysfunctional relationship.
Sure, Love is forgiving. But love isn't enabling or giving yourself to someone whose heart is closed. Doing so breeds entropy. You are enabling your partner, you are betraying yourself, you are making sure both of you will live miserably together. That's not love. That's something else, and it won't lead to joy.
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