And I found out when I accidentally listened to the song inside a public utility vehicle because the driver was listening to a radio station which played it.
And when the lyrics rolled off I was mesmerized that - all this time - this was what the song was all about.
Play the song below and you'll get it too.
It's about a man (let's say it's a man because the song is being sung by a man) who knows exactly - up to the infinitesimal detail - what to say, how to say it, when to say it - to his significant other / partner / lover to make her (let's say it's a 'her' because the song's original music video says it is) have sex with him.
"And I know just where to touch you,
And I know just what to prove.
I know when to pull you closer,
And I know when to let you loose.
And I know the night is fading,
And I know that time's gonna fly.
And I'm never gonna tell you ev'rything I've gotta tell you.
But I know I've gotta give it a try."
And I know just what to prove.
I know when to pull you closer,
And I know when to let you loose.
And I know the night is fading,
And I know that time's gonna fly.
And I'm never gonna tell you ev'rything I've gotta tell you.
But I know I've gotta give it a try."
If he needs to lie, scheme or be a fake - so be it. These are necessities to his end goal. If there is collateral damage because of his use of these techniques, he really couldn't care less.
Though he could tell the truth too, he only does so when he feels the need to and when he thinks it will be for his benefit.
And yes, he could dream, just like everyone else but the difference is that he knows WHEN to dream.
And yes, he could dream, just like everyone else but the difference is that he knows WHEN to dream.
As if he has planned everything - every minor and major detail.
He recognizes which strategy to hatch and when to implement it
The same way he has MEMORIZED where to touch his lover and what body part, and for how long.
He has studied all these with a specific goal in mind - either to give her pleasure and / or because he has something to prove.
If this song is about how to succeed in business, how to land that account or how to rule the world - all these calculations make perfect sense.
But it isn't.
It's about making love
and his dilemma is that he can't FIGURE OUT why his partner/lover can make love out of nothing at all and he can't.
He knows he can only do the following:
feign making love;
NOT surrender to the moment;
act / do the motions associated with having sex;
pull from his memory specific mental images and/or all the should's, would's, could's he believes he must do/must happen/he believes she must feel, etc.
make meticulous, planned "love";
ape spontaneity;
move, act, do as according to what he KNOWS and what he thinks as based on his past and/or his plans for the future.
be disengaged with what is happening now.
And he can't understand why she can simply make love even in the absence of all these mental machinations. Simply put, he doesn't get her. He can't even accept her for what she is as he is continually processing her mentally on his head in an attempt to UNDERSTAND what she is all about and how she can make love from scratch aka spontaneously aka without thinking about it - she just does.
"And I know the roads to riches,
And I know the ways to fame.
I know all the rules and then I know how to break them.
And I always know the name of the game.
But I don't know how to leave you,
And I'll never let you fall.
And I don't know how you do it,
Making love out of nothin' at all."
And he knows everything he needs to do, he needs to say, he needs to think to win / score a point / achieve his goals.
But he doesn't know how to stop himself from controlling the situation to suit him.
All he knows is how to control - his thoughts / other people's reactions / his environment.
And he can't understand how she can just let go and go with the making-love-flow.
He can't understand her because he can't feel her.
He can't even feel himself going through the motions - he can only think it through.
He can only think of her and see her as someone separate and distant from him. He can't comprehend her no matter how much he goes around in circles in his head.
"How could she do that?" He wonders.
"Why can't I be like her?" He envies.
"Why cant I make love without thinking much into making love?"
"Why can I only pretend to make love but not really be in love? and why can she?"
"Maybe if I have her, I can have a little of her inner light, her genuineness, her uninhibited relax-ness."
And these are what he wants to tell / ask her but can't, he want to but he doesn't try.
The result: frustrating sex for him and / or the other.
It's about making love
and his dilemma is that he can't FIGURE OUT why his partner/lover can make love out of nothing at all and he can't.
He knows he can only do the following:
feign making love;
NOT surrender to the moment;
act / do the motions associated with having sex;
pull from his memory specific mental images and/or all the should's, would's, could's he believes he must do/must happen/he believes she must feel, etc.
make meticulous, planned "love";
ape spontaneity;
move, act, do as according to what he KNOWS and what he thinks as based on his past and/or his plans for the future.
be disengaged with what is happening now.
And he can't understand why she can simply make love even in the absence of all these mental machinations. Simply put, he doesn't get her. He can't even accept her for what she is as he is continually processing her mentally on his head in an attempt to UNDERSTAND what she is all about and how she can make love from scratch aka spontaneously aka without thinking about it - she just does.
"And I know the roads to riches,
And I know the ways to fame.
I know all the rules and then I know how to break them.
And I always know the name of the game.
But I don't know how to leave you,
And I'll never let you fall.
And I don't know how you do it,
Making love out of nothin' at all."
And he knows everything he needs to do, he needs to say, he needs to think to win / score a point / achieve his goals.
But he doesn't know how to stop himself from controlling the situation to suit him.
All he knows is how to control - his thoughts / other people's reactions / his environment.
And he can't understand how she can just let go and go with the making-love-flow.
He can't understand her because he can't feel her.
He can't even feel himself going through the motions - he can only think it through.
He can only think of her and see her as someone separate and distant from him. He can't comprehend her no matter how much he goes around in circles in his head.
"How could she do that?" He wonders.
"Why can't I be like her?" He envies.
"Why cant I make love without thinking much into making love?"
"Why can I only pretend to make love but not really be in love? and why can she?"
"Maybe if I have her, I can have a little of her inner light, her genuineness, her uninhibited relax-ness."
And these are what he wants to tell / ask her but can't, he want to but he doesn't try.
The result: frustrating sex for him and / or the other.
Because he can only think about how to have sex. He knows it by rote.
He can only control his actions and manipulate her reactions.
He knows what to say and how to make her believe why she should believe in him; and why she should stay with him. But he doesn't really mean any of these.
He can only know the following:
When he turns to point A, it will lead to point B;
if he pushes this button here, it will eject this X there;
and if he touches this area here, it will produce this Y reaction.
None of these he feels. He just remembers. He can only know control. It's like answering a multiple choice question and acing it but not really understanding the test. He just knows that if he takes it, it will get him to the next level.
He's committed all these to memory so that when he needs them, he can pull them out easily and use these to his benefit.
He really doesn't GET her.
But he needs her. If he at least figures her out, maybe he could at least have a part of her in him. Because he knows he's empty in some way. A piece of him is missing. And maybe she could complete him. But she can't.
No one can.
Only he can complete him if he first lets go of his need to figure everything out,
only then will everything make sense.
And that is why he's having nightmares. It's him messing with himself.
Every time I see you all the rays of the sun,
Are streamin' through the waves in your hair.
Find more similar lyrics on http://mp3lyrics.com/t9And every star in the sky is taking aim at your eyes,
Like a spotlight. The beating of my heart is a drum.
And it's lost and it's looking for a rhythm like you.
You can take the darkness from the pit of the night,
And turn into a beacon burning endlessly bright.
I've got to follow it, 'cause ev'rything I know,
Well, it's nothing till I give it to you.
He can only control his actions and manipulate her reactions.
He knows what to say and how to make her believe why she should believe in him; and why she should stay with him. But he doesn't really mean any of these.
He can only know the following:
When he turns to point A, it will lead to point B;
if he pushes this button here, it will eject this X there;
and if he touches this area here, it will produce this Y reaction.
None of these he feels. He just remembers. He can only know control. It's like answering a multiple choice question and acing it but not really understanding the test. He just knows that if he takes it, it will get him to the next level.
He's committed all these to memory so that when he needs them, he can pull them out easily and use these to his benefit.
He really doesn't GET her.
But he needs her. If he at least figures her out, maybe he could at least have a part of her in him. Because he knows he's empty in some way. A piece of him is missing. And maybe she could complete him. But she can't.
No one can.
Only he can complete him if he first lets go of his need to figure everything out,
only then will everything make sense.
And that is why he's having nightmares. It's him messing with himself.
Every time I see you all the rays of the sun,
Are streamin' through the waves in your hair.
Find more similar lyrics on http://mp3lyrics.com/t9And every star in the sky is taking aim at your eyes,
Like a spotlight. The beating of my heart is a drum.
And it's lost and it's looking for a rhythm like you.
You can take the darkness from the pit of the night,
And turn into a beacon burning endlessly bright.
I've got to follow it, 'cause ev'rything I know,
Well, it's nothing till I give it to you.
What is happening to them? Even the sex act has become mental. They can only think about it; they cannot do it because doing will involve their whole being. And whenever there is any involvement of the whole, the head becomes uneasy because then it can no more be the master; it can no more be in control.
you have to move in it forgetting all that you have heard about sex, studied about sex, all that the society has told you: the church, your religion, the teachers. Forget everything and get involved in it in your totality. Forget to control! Control is the barrier. Rather, be possessed by it; do not control it.
and love should not be a mind thing -- that you are continuously thinking of how to make love and then go to sleep. Love should be a deeper involvement of your whole being, and it should not be projected by the mind, but should come out spontaneously.
There is no need to plan, there is no need to rehearse in the mind. There is no need to do anything in particular: just be loving and available. Go on playing with each other's energy. And when you start making love, there is no need to make it great. Otherwise you will be pretending and so will the other person. He will pretend that he is a great lover and you will pretend that you are a great lover ... and both are unsatisfied! There is no need to pose anything. It is a very silent prayer. Making love is meditation. It is sacred, it is the holiest of holies. So while you are making love to a man go very slowly ... with taste, taking in every flavor of it. And very slowly: there is no hurry, no need to hurry, enough time is there. THE OPEN SECRET, Chapter 4 - Osho And while making love, forget about orgasm. Rather, be in a relaxed state with the man, relax into each other. The western mind is continuously thinking about when it is coming and how to make it fast and great and this and that. The thinking does not allow the body energies to function. It does not allow the body to have its own way; the mind goes on interfering... Relax with the man. If nothing happens there is no need for anything to happen. If nothing happens then that is what is happening...and that too is beautiful! Orgasm is not such a thing that it has to happen every day. Sex should be just being together, just dissolving into each other. Then one can keep making love for half an hour, for one hour, just relaxing into each other. Then you will be of utter mindlessness, because there is no need for the mind. Love is the only thing where the mind is not needed; and that is where the West is wrong: it brings in the mind even there! THE OPEN SECRET, Chapter 4 - Osho
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