This is how projection works

The point of projection - according to Freud's study of psychologically dysfunctional people in Victorian England - is to defend a person from his/her own awareness of his/her dysfunction.

e.g.

A fat woman I saw at a clinic in Glorietta Makati - who saw then 40-year old still sexy Carmi Martin walk by - contemptuously called Carmi Martin fat blissfully unaware that she is actually describing herself.

A Wikipedia definition of projection:

"a defense mechanism in which a person unconsciously rejects his or her own unacceptable attributes by ascribing them to objects or persons in the outside world.^[1] For example, a person who is rude may accuse other people of being rude."

Projection is the ego's way of defending itself from the truth of one's situation. 

Raymart Santiago to Mon Tulfo videotaping an angry Claudine: "Ser anong ginagawa nyo? `Anong vini-videohan nyo?'"

Raymart to Media: `I took video evidence of an angry Claudine taking drugs.'

When you can't admit to yourself you're a pathological liar / that you're not happy,  you pass these on to others who are easy targets of your subconscious self-judgments. 

Why do this? 

Because it's easy to throw these onto others than admit that you have these. Admitting these would be the death of your ego = your false self = the image you want to see about yourself. When that ego / false self / flattering image of yourself  dies, you think you would die too. So you think, better destroy others than myself.

So you project because it's the easy way out of admitting the truth - to yourself. Believe it or not, it's easier to admit the truth to others than to your self. 

Projection is what you do because it's convenient for you right now. By right now, you mean, in the short-term. In the short-term you mean = immediate gratification. By immediate gratification you mean, you need it as a quick fix. You're not really solving anything, you're just putting chewed gum on the hole of a leaky roof expecting that when the monsoon rains come, you'll be safe and dry forever. 

Slowly but surely, projection turns to denial. 

Denial is dismissing the truth by pretending to not hear/see/feel it. 

It is you shutting down and hoisting up a fortress to protect yourself from the onslaught of facts.

Dismiss and deny the facts, and you'll be safe. This works in the short-term or until a bigger typhoon knocks you off your illusion and everybody can see the truth except you.

If you still can't see it and/or refuse to, may God help you.

My Review of BRTC Whitening and Repairing BB Cream

This post is the second in the series of reviews I am doing for BRTC products.

The first was my review on BRTC Blemish Recover Balm.

Recently, I tried BRTC Whitening and Repairing BB Cream and all I can say about this product is that I love it!

Let me count the why's.

1  It suits my skin type.

BRTC Whitening and Repairing BB Cream is a cream that - according to its packaging - provides numerous coverage benefits and has SPF 37 PA+++. It also claims to provide skincare and result to effects similar to that of makeup.

When I applied it on my skin, it blended well with my natural facial color. It appeared as if I was wearing a very light foundation. My skin literally lightened and brightened up. It was like I was wearing the most natural-looking foundation in the world and it didn't need to be retouched. I can wear it the whole day without worrying of it thinning off. At the same time, I had the confidence that it was also protecting me against the harsh elements of the sun.

BRTC Whitening and Repairing BB Cream is suited for those who have medium to light beige skin types. It made my skin look flawless and smooth.


2 It is very easy to apply.

I dabbed a pea sized drop on my forehead, each of my cheeks, on my chin, on my nose. I also dabbed a few drops on my neck. Then, I spread it evenly on my face and neck area. It gave me a natural looking matte finish in just a few seconds.


3 It is perfect for those who want to spend little time in front of the mirror

If you're the type who wants to look pretty and flawless minus all the effort, I highly recommend BRTC Whitening and Repair BB Cream.

It takes little time to use but its effect lasts the entire day you're out. You'll look as if flawless-ness is your natural birthright. I am not kidding. You appear imperfection-free the whole day.

Also, BRTC is the real deal. There are tons of copycats out there who are now using the BB Cream tag to brand their product.

BRTC is the authentic thing in the market. The rest are skin products made to look and act like the original.

BRTC is the original Korean BB Cream that makes quality skin products for the Asian skin.

BRTC stands for the patented and certified Blue Phyto Complex that is culled from the Blue Flowers of Lavender, Cornflower, Borage, Chamomile. You can therefore expect a BRTC product to be completely safe and efficient to the most sensitive skin.

It's a beauty product that is well thought of and expertly engineered.

Check out http://beautyandcosmeticshop.sulit.com.ph/ and 

https://www.facebook.com/TheBeautyAndCosmeticShop to know more and if you want to 

shop for BB Creams until you drop.

Conclusion: I highly recommend BRTC Whitening and repair BB Cream if you want to achieve that flawless and imperfection-free look. It works best if your skin is light to medium beige in color.

What UP Student Mark Solis is really saying in his letter of apology

UP Student Mark Solis says sorry after being busted for sending a photo he claimed 
he took of a boy "gathering seaweed in Zamboanga City" to a "Smiles of the World" 
contest sponsored by the Chilean government. The prize was $1,000 and a trip to 
Brazil and Chile - which ironically was where the below

photo actually came from,

Photo from gmanews website.

Thanks to the internet, the picture was discovered to be taken by Gregory John Smith
 - NOT Mark Solis. The picture was NOT of a boy in Zamboanga but a photo Smith
 took of a child having fun with 

other kids throwing seaweeds at each other on a beach in Paraty, Rio de Janeiro.

What was cringe-inducing was the fact that Solis had the gall and conceit to make up
 a colorful story about the picture even titling it as a display of "...the Filipino Spirit," and 
conjuring a context of the child as "help(ing) his father in farming seaweeds along a 
coastal community in Zamboanga province," 

Thanks to the internet, again, it was discovered that Solis submitted the same photo 
to another contest 

and passed it off this time of a child 
who "helps his father harvest seaweed in Ramanathapuram district, India.”

Photo from: ICIMOD.

Fortunately, the boy looks South American, Indian and South East Asian all at the 
same time.

Unfortunately, Solis is a 2nd rate trying hard hack who by the sheer belief in his 
suaveness thought he could pocket $1,000 and get a free trip to Chile/Brazil 
without lifting a finger (actually he did lift a finger to click and download a 
photo from Flickr) and get away with it.

Because he thought it was only he that had access to the internet? 

Because he thought it was only he who knew where to look for what, 
and that no one else knew

how to use google?

And should his below apology letter be believed to be remorseful and sincere?

Or is he saying something else?

GREGORY JOHN SMITH

Dear Mr. Smith,

Children at Risk Foundation

I am writing to you to express my deep remorse and sincerest apologies 

for claiming your photo as mine.

I am writing to you to express my regret for being busted. 

Yep, you caught me pretending to claim as mine 

the photo you really took. 

As the rightful owner of the photo, you deserve my initial thoughts and 

statement about this.

Because the photo is really yours, you need to hear me justify why 

I did it, okay? 

Your photo was one of the most heartwarming photos I have ever seen,
 and I could only

 wish that I had the ability to capture such moments as well as you did. I kept it as

wallpaper in my computer – an enduring reminder of what every amateur photographer 

should aspire for.

You know what? I love your photo!! I want to flatter you because 

hopefully that will softenyour stance on what I did. It's also true that the 

photo you took is the most beautiful I've ever seen because it's

 something

 I know - in a million years - 

I cannot do, even if I try my best to (because well, I'm too lazy to

 actually go out and take a 

picture of anything see). And even if I did, I don't think I have

 the eye or the heart to see 

anything joyful or heartwarming even if it's right in front of me. 

The best I could do is look 

at other people's photos on Flickr, download them and put them on 

my desktop as wallpaper. 

It's the best I could do given my laziness and penchant to claim 

other people's hardwork as mine. 

And hey, that's how I did it then
so I thought I could still get away with it now. Alas, it turns out, 

I'm not the

 only one who 

knows how to use Google. That surprised me right there.

Unfortunately, I was driven by my youth, lack of experience, and the inability

 to see the 

repercussions of my actions. The sheer amount of the prize, the stiff competition, 
and the

unique opportunity to be abroad blinded me from undertaking what is 
supposed to be an 

honest and a rightful conduct. 

I'm young, see. You know how youths are. We're impulsive and I

 really don't know whatI was doing. All I know was that I liked 

your photo when I saw

 it on Flickr, downloaded it,claimed it as mine with the intent

 to win a prize for it without 

acknowledging you - unless I get caught. It's all about the 

money for me, see. And the fame. And the guise that I have talent.

 I also thought I could get away with it. 

It was a regrettable lapse on my judgment, and no words

 can express how sorry I am for taking your photo as mine.

Sorry I got caught, really. I had no intention of

 returning the prize or acknowledgingthe source of the

 photo if no one called me on it. But now that I am, yep,

 I'm sorry.That's all the words I can use.

I am now in close contact with the organizers, conveyed my apologies, 
and sought their 

opinion on the matter and how to proceed from here. 

To make clear my sorry, I now 'fessed up to the organizer. 

See, I told you I'm really sorry.But it's only because I got caught.

I am surrendering everything that has been given to me in this competition, 
actually and virtually, 

and I take full responsibility for a disgraceful action and a grave moral 
lapse on my part. 

To really make it seem I'm sincere, look, I'm returning the money okay.

This recent turn of events has taught me to become humble, to have 
foresight, 

to be sensitive for the works of others, and ultimately, to take responsibility
 for my action.

I now know what I did is stupid, arrogant, lazy. I should 

have had the foresight to know 

I'm not the only one who knows about Google. 

So I take responsibility for all of these. I'll try to be a lot 

careful next time. 

Maybe, I'll try to plagiarize written content, who knows?

As long as I don't have to work for something to get anything,

 I'm all for it. I'm just used to it, sorry.That's how I roll. 

Again, I am in deep remorse for what I did. I am truly sorry, Sir Gregory.

Do you like the Sir I added before your name? That means I look 
up to you as my teacher and

you also remind me of the teacher who scolded me back then 
when I did something 

similar in school. Hopefully, you're also 
flattered by my calling you Sir.

Very respectfully and sincerely

=======

Below is my letter to Mark Solis:

Dear Mr. Solis

PSEUDO-PHOTOGRAPHER AT RISK OF BEING ETERNALLY
CONDEMNED AS A HACK

Hey yo!

Dude!

Seriously?

You had a lapse in judgment?

What were you, drunk?

Were you high on something other than an inflated view of yourself as an awesome 

Flickr-photo-downloader-photo-contest-submitter-pretender?!

That wasn't a lapse in judgment. 

You knew what you were doing.

You knew WHY you were doing it.

You're pretending again in your letter and blaming your youth for it.

Youth?! Dude, you're a young adult. 

And don't blame your youth, boy.

It doesn't take age to know what you did was motivated by greed and laziness.

You're wise enough to place that Rio de Janeiro boy in Zamboanga and India. 

You're definitely wise enough to know you have no plans to return the prize or
 `fess up if you didn't 

got caught.

Thankfully, you're too full of yourself to realize the power of the internet
and Google and the truth.

I can only wish you're earnestly in deep remorse of what you did.
If you really were, you wouldn't

have waited to be caught. And you would have sent your letter of sorry to 

Smith first and not to 

ABS-CBN. What, you can easily search for nice pics but find it difficult 
to search for 

the source of your pics?

I can only wonder if, other than you, Smith believes your letter of apology. I don't.

Sincerely,

CheezMiss

P.S.

Hoy "bata"! Sayo din ba `to? Yung totoo? Aminin.

And this is how the truth catches up with you

Some call it karma.

Some call it fate.

Some call it destiny.

All it is, is the pattern of your ego-based decisions giving you what you have long been dishing out.

It is karma in the sense that you reap what you sow. 

It is also you being now on the receiving end of the pain, confusion, anxiety you gave. Its purpose is to make you aware how you have sowed pain, confusion, anxiety in others.

Does this sound fair?


More than fair, this is how (if you're religious/superstitious) God

/ (if you're into New Age) the Universe

/ the system helps you grow, evolve, change for the better.

The pain you're feeling is an impetus for you to look at your motivations and understand WHY you did what you did (or didn't)  / WHY you said what you said (or didn't).

Because in the overall view of things, what gets your name included in St Peter's book is how alive that place inside your Self is; that place where your decisions come from; that place where your authentic Self exists just as it is - minus what people think of you / minus what you think of you / minus of what you think you should be.

That place where you react to the most trivial or serious incident in the most organic / natural way;

the kind of way where your reaction is immediate / instantaneous / spontaneous;

the kind of way where your mind has not enough time to process how you should react.

It is that place where you just ARE - minus the must's / should's.


If you can look at that place inside of your self HONESTLY and EARNESTLY, you can see how much that place has been filled by beliefs from other people, your own beliefs, your culture's beliefs, your fears, your ego, your expectations - and see how all these fillers aren't yours.

If you can see all these fillers, only then you can clear them all away slowly but surely until you are left with your Self, just as YOU are.

Then, maybe, you can use this new myopia-free view to motivate your self to know more of how to grow and evolve.

It's only hard - and it gets harder in the long run - if you prefer to cling to your beliefs, fears, ego rather than deal with them and let them go. It is relatively easier to face these all now so you can know why you have them in the first place.

Clinging to your beliefs, fears, ego keeps you in that old, musky, murky place of non-change and rigidness - which eventually leads to decline.

Though facing all these beliefs, fears, ego hurts like hell, it only hurts now and in that specific moment when you do deal with it all. Once you do, you literally go past it, it goes past you.

You spontaneously go beyond it enough to make you wonder what the fuss was all about.


Then, you start to grow, evolve.

Your growth helps others evolve.

It's a win-win situation for all.

Why wouldn't you want this then?


Ask yourself that question now.

My Review of BRTC Blemish Recover Balm

Yes, I take care of my outside just as much as my inside. And you should too.

Beauty is not just in the eye of the beholder, it can also be bought - in bottle form - and applied on the skin.

Why force people to say you're pretty when you can actually look pretty - for real.

This post is one of a series about BTRC.



If you like KPOP and you're wondering why idols' skin look so flawlessly white and smooth - it might be because:

a)  they're Koreans

b) they have a regular Kimchi diet

c) they use BB creams

d) all of the above

My answer is D but having personally tried a type of BB cream, I can personally attest that I don't need to eat Kimchi or be a Korean to have good skin.

Specifically, I tried BTRC Blemish Recover Balm.

It was my first time to apply BB cream on my skin. The following are my thoughts on it:


Texture-wise

When BTRC advertises their product as a balm, they are not joking.

This Blemish Recover Balm indeed feels like a balm on the skin. It also subtly smells like one - similar to a very very very mild Chinese ointment. Similar to a balm, it is a bit thick that a drop goes a long way.

Once you spread it on the skin - do so evenly - it thins itself out and seems to be absorbed quickly.

BRTC Blemish Recover Balm on my skin

I applied BRTC Blemish Recover Balm on my face making sure that the area where a red mark/small red soon-to-be-a-pimple bump/blemish is aptly covered.


Straight from the bottle, the balm's color is a mildly dark range of beige. But once it's on my skin, it looks ashen brown - a color that doesn't jell with my skin tone.

Remarkably, the blemish I had on my skin - one potential pimple breakout - did minimize when applied with BTRC Blemish Recover Balm. After a few days, it disappeared.

Essentially, the balm is perfect in removing and minimizing signs of blemishes. However, make sure that your skin type is a match to the color of the balm.

I believe BRTC Blemish Recover Balm is ideal for those with oily skin and those who are prone to - and already have - breakouts.

And BTRC's store page agrees:

Applicable to: Oily and troubled skin, skin that requires soothing and calming

Recommended Skin: Skin that requires the effect of natural skin cover up and protection Skin that requires quick and easy makeup Skin that is prone to acne, psoriasis, eczema or other dermatological problems. 

Main ingredients: Tea Tree Oil, Lavender, Aloe Vera Extract, Ginger, Grapefruit See, Chamomile, and many more botanical ingredients.

Colour/Tone: Not sure about your shade? The BRTC Blemish Recover Balm (BB Cream) is suitable for most skin tones. The unique feature of BB Creams is that all you need is a very small amount and you rub it into the skin until it seeps in, matching your colour providing a radiant natural glow.  The colour of the cream in the tube is natural beige but the amount of coverage depends on how many layers you apply.  It is suitable for almost all skin tones!


Contrary to this statement though, BRTC Blemish Recover Balm might be suitable for most skin tones, but not on mine.

Still, I'd use it to cover up about-to-breakout pimples and blemishes. I have never seen a product minimize if not remove the possibility of a breakout as fast as BRTC Blemish Recover Balm did.

For that alone, I'd highly recommend it.

BRTC (Bio Remedies Therapeutic Cosmetic) is the #1 Korean skincare line. It's sold in over 10 countries and has been featured in numerous magazines such as Vogue, InStyle, Allure, CeCi, etc. Many celebrities swear by it and it has even been recommended by doctors. What makes their products so special, you may ask? Well they only use the finest botanical ingredients ranging from fruit, plant, and nut extracts. The brand specializes in acne, moisuturization, anti-aging, pore, and whitening products for all skin types as well as both men and women. 

 

It is best to keep BRTC Blemish Recover Balm handy during moments where you feel a pimple is about to spring forth or if it already has, apply this balm on it to avoid the pimple from being an ugly scar.

Go to http://beautyandcosmeticshop.sulit.com.ph/ and 

https://www.facebook.com/TheBeautyAndCosmeticShop to know more and if you want to shop for BB Creams until you drop.

"How BB Creams Work?Essentially the ultimate all-in-one product, BB Creams offer strong sun protection, prevent pimples, cover imperfections, and contain anti-aging, skin soothing properties. 

Because BB Cream is very soft to the skin, it is suitable for all skin types, especially for sensitive skin and for those who are suffering from acne. It has the advantages of a foundation and a skin care product while it smoothes perfections and pigmentation spots.  

The top 3 problems of having beliefs

The problem with beliefs and having them are many.

For the meantime, let's stick to the basic and simple ones. Let's also illustrate these via an actual case we've all just recently heard and seen.


1  Beliefs lead to denials

It doesn't matter if you have a false belief (e.g. Jesus was born on Dec 25)  or a true belief (e.g. Jesus was born on Dec 25).

Both are simply beliefs our culture and our religion made us think is true.

 So if you have a belief that having a fairytale wedding will lead to a happily ever after married life - yet you see, hear and sense data / information that doesn't support this, what would you do?

If you are like most of us, the `normal' thing you might do is to deny that data/information you saw / heard / sensed and stick to what you BELIEVE because

---  that is what you want

--- and your beliefs work with everything you want to see about yourself; it also fits in conjunction with your entire system including your thought process.

--- it is easier to dismiss any data or information that doesn't jell with  your self-defined life program / dogma.

So if you hear news that that fiancee of yours is marrying you because he only wants your money, what do you do?

You would do what Aiai and the rest of us who WANTS TO BELIEVE in something WE WANT TO THINK IS TRUE -- that is: DENY TO DEATH THE TRUTH.



AIAI:  "Sa rest ng pagsasama namin........Tinago ko lahat ng pangit......
Gusto kong mabuhay..parang fairy tale...Yun yung gusto kong mangyari....
Yun ang gusto kong isipin.

Yun ang gusto kong mangyari sa `ming dalawa."


Yun lang naman gusto ko..yung magkaron ng kasama sa buhay...nahihiya ako aminin na hindi naman ganun talaga yung nangyari sa `min."



2   Beliefs keep us from moving forward

Having beliefs keeps us stuck in our set ways of thinking. It is a self-imposed chain, a straitjacket we happily wear to keep us from expanding our view of ourselves and the world.

These beliefs are able to work non-stop thanks to them being fueled by FEAR.

Fear and belief go hand in hand.

You have beliefs because there is something you do not want to face or acknowledge. You are using your belief as an armor.

Belief is a futile armor because it easily dissolves when truth hits it. Then you have to have another belief to protect yourself further, and another belief - and when that too dissolves, you have no choice when  life/truth/nature hits you right in the gut.  The one thing you're avoiding to see and feel is what you will eventually and ultimately feel. Better face it now as you will eventually face it later on. You're simply delaying the inevitable. But if that is what you feel like doing now, you're free to do so too.


"Pino-proteksyonan ko si _____ Ayokong makita ng mga anak ko na nasasaktan ako...


From the very beginning ramdam ko naman yun..pero natatakot ako sa totoo...at pag nalaman ko ang totoo sobrang sakit."


3  Beliefs causes us to lie to ourselves

If you are so damn committed to your beliefs, you start to think these as absolute truths when all they actually are are lies you hold onto because you are invested in fulfilling a tremendous need which that belief seems to fill.

So when you have a tremendous almost desperate need to believe that that person who smiled at you has a crush on you and that he is the one!!! -- you start to believe that he is sans any proof that you see otherwise.

"Dream ko magkaron ng asawa..Akala ko sya yung bigay sakin...

Sorry talaga....Sarili ko niloko ko. Pinapaniwala ko na masaya ako.


AT LEAST NGAYON, DI KO NA NILOLOKO SARILI KO."

Did Aiai love her ex husband?

If you see her responses above, notice that she LOVES more her dreams, illusions, wishes, BELIEFS and the image she wants to see herself in or the fairytale picture she wants to see herself in more  than the person she was with.






To solve these problems, you simply have to do the following so you will not be easily swayed by your own illusions.

These solutions are given to us by physicist Tom Campbell:

1   Be openly skeptical.

If you are always skeptical, you will not be open to any new information that could be helpful.

If you are always open, you will take in everything and believe anything.

Be openly skeptical. Do not be afraid to ask questions. Do not be afraid to challenge your own ideas, your own thought process. Do not be afraid to ask yourself questions. It is a very efficient way to filter out the noise and listen to your own voice.


2  Trust not others or authorities but your own experience.

No matter what anyone says or does, it is not your truth if it is not your experience.

Your experience is the most valuable data you have. It is where the truth is.

Belief is pseudo-knowledge.  Truth is knowledge.

Do you believe that the sun will rise tomorrow? Or do you KNOW that the sun will rise tomorrow?

Based on your experience for the past number of years you've been living on this planet - and as based on your own research which states that for the past centuries - the sun has risen and set for more than a thousand years, you therefore KNOW that the sun will rise tomorrow.


3  Face your fears. Acknowledge your beliefs.

"Belief and fear are the only ties that can bind a mind, while unconditional love and open minded skepticism set it free. A body may be enslaved by others, while a mind can only be enslaved by itself."
Tom Campbell, My BIG TOE p. 189.

It Takes a Man and a Woman to make pseudo-love work

If the plot of the movie It Takes a Man and a Woman is illustrated

and the journeys of its characters are drawn out,

it would look like this:

Specifically, the characters' journey is outlined below:

And there might not be a part 4 because this movie showed how much Miggy and Laida didn't change at all - despite all the convincing, the fierceness, the tears, the American slang/twang, the new lives both characters seem to be leading. It's all cosmetics. It's all superficial. It's all special effects.

Miggy and Laida hasn't moved on at all.

Laida is still the same giddy girl in pseudo-love with Miggy.



          Pseudo-love because she thinks she's in love with him despite his betrayal, (what, Laida leaves
          for work and he smooches another woman? addicted to any skirt-wearing-person much? cant
          handle loneliness much? doesnt care about Laida's feelings and her loyalty much?)

          his arrogance,  his lack of care, his lack of empathy, his selfishness.

          The fact she doesnt mind all of these negative traits of him, and that she still stays with him
          doesnt mean she loves him, it only means -
          - in Zoila's words, Laida is an "Adik!"

          Laida also doesnt love herself because if she does, her self-respect, self-esteem and self-worth
          wont allow her to stay and will automatically push her away from Miggy's poisonous presence.

       
               

Miggy is still - and forever will be - focused on how to self-sabotage his life and everyone and everything within proximity of him.

He also doesnt care about Laida or his current classy girlfriend. He just wants a warm body whom he could depend on to save his ass always and forever so he can stay happy forever after  making sure he wont look at himself and how he can change his behavior for the better.


That is why he wants to be a good man see but he knows, no matter how hard he tries, he cant. His pride, arrogance wont let him. And Laida's presence or her pseudo-love cant save him. Only he can do that.

That is why when Miggy proposed to Laida, he said he's applying for work. Because he needs to literally work and make an effort to not be his natural arrogant self.

Their wedding just cemented their obsolescence. They think they have moved on via them literally moving / going into the next step everyone thinks they should be in. But it was just a way for them to trap each other in the same cycle of Miggy's self-sabotage and Laida's messianic role in his life.

That's not a happy ever after, not is it a reality ever after. It's a dysfunctional relationship.

Sure, Love is forgiving. But love isn't enabling or giving yourself to someone whose heart is closed. Doing so breeds entropy. You are enabling your partner, you are betraying yourself, you are making sure both of you will live miserably together. That's not love. That's something else, and it won't lead to joy.